om.br/luciferianos.phpThe Theory and Practice of Masturbation
My wife often says to me that she doesn't know why I need to do it. This is quite a normal reaction. Masturbation is virtually universal among men but many women go through their whole life without ever trying it, and yet others do it as often as men, or even more so. There are several possible explanations for masturbation behaviour but only one actually works, only one actually predicts the behaviour that we observe. Masturbation as SinMany religions, especially the Catholic Church, regard masturbation as an expression of sin. Sin is a difficult concept to understand, whether you want to accept it or not. Many Christians regard masturbation as a sin, a temptation by the devil or a weakness of the soul. This is a very glib and unhelpful categorization because it does nothing to explain why some people sin in this way and not other ways, or why some people sin in other ways but not this way. It is also a sin for people to break the windows of people whose names begin with the letter J, and the sin and temptation model is powerless to predict why people would commit the sin of polishing the bishop but not the sin of breaking specific windows. The sin model does not explain why boys are more likely than girls to commit this sin or when the temptation will come upon them. Taking drugs, drinking and smoking are also sins of temptation, but the sin model cannot explain why there is so little correlation between these two patterns of sin. Millions of young men masturbate but don't smoke, and millions of young women smoke but don't masturbate. How does the strength of their faith or character explain these differences? The devil is as poor an explanation of sin as God is of existence. The sin explanation is also rather poor at explaining why the devil tempts rats, mice, squirrels, porcupines, pigs, deer, whales, elephants, dogs, kangaroos, monkeys and apes into masturbating as well. Masturbation for fun: if it feels good, do itThis line is so obviously good, healthy and empowering that I almost feel a cad to point out the simple fact that it is a very poor explanation. Masturbation is good, healthy and does you good. OK, so why aren't you doing it now? And why do some women never feel the need to do it? And why do married men masturbate? Because we want to. It doesn't explain anything. It is the negation of an explanation. Free will is always a negation of an explanation. If the answer is free will you are not answering the question. Free will is not a real explanation.Why does masturbation feel good? And why do people only get the urge to masturbate when they do? Why do men not masturbate every four hours or so, or as regularly as they eat, sleep, defecate, or light a cigarette? Why do some women not masturbate for years at a stretch and then masturbate twelve times in a week? Why do women ever do anything else? Masturbation: hydraulic pressure explanationMany people, especially men, rationalize male masturbation to themselves in rather mechanical, hydraulic terms. Semen builds up through the course of the day and there comes a time when it needs to be vented or else... well, or else, really. Bang, splat, or blow-backs? I don't know, I'm not a doctor, anyway, it's obvious that you have to wank or else, errr... you will regret it. This one does offer some degree of prediction. It explains why boys of 14 wank more than men of 80. However it doesn't do anything to explain female masturbation and it doesn't explain why a man who has a wife who disapproves of masturbation will still surreptitiously masturbate at times even when given plenty of opportunity to “flush his tanks” with an attractive partner. This is the type of behaviour that is hardest to explain. Men in long term stable loving relationships with adequate sex still go out of their way to masturbate at times, often without even seeming to get a great deal of pleasure from the act. What could possibly explain that behaviour? The final, true, explanation actually works. Not only does it explain the practice of wanking but it even explains these false explanations. Sperm WarfareThe explanation for masturbation and so much of human sexual behaviour is to be found with the true nature of sperm. In the high school biology class semen is a rather uniform liquid containing sperm, absurdly large numbers of free swimming single cells containing a random half the genetic material of the man. OK, so far so good, but it does miss most of the important detail. Most sperm has no chance of fertilizing an egg and it doesn't even try. Egg getting sperm are an elite corps within a vast army (navy? whatever) with different functions. Alongside the egg getters are killer sperm who do not try to get to the egg but instead exist for the sole purpose of killing foreign sperm, sperm from any other man. Also in the same army are vast numbers of sluggishly swimming blockers, sperm whose function is to hinder the progress of egg getter and killer sperm of other men. Most sperm are there to fight, to make war not babies. If women were 100% faithful and reliable men would only need a very small quantity of sperm, and nothing but egg-getting sperm. ButHomo sapiens are not like that. Women cheat, and men cheat. That is why men (as well as many other species) have evolved multifunction ejaculates which are capable of attacking and defending against armies or armadas of sperm from other men. The secret to efficient sperm warfare is the maintenance of a healthy balance between fresh and stale sperm. If a man never masturbates his testicles do not explode, but his sperm ducts do fill up with elderly and uncompetitive sperm. Sperm that are not ejaculated will eventually be reabsorbed by the body, as happens in men who have been vasectomized, there cannot be an explosion or other form of major calamity. The tiny (mythical?) minority of men who never masturbate would not suffer physical pain as a result, the problem of excess semen finds its own solution in the form of a spontaneous (usually nocturnal) emission. Most men and women are faithful to their partners but a significant minority are not, which means that a significant minority of your and my ancestors were adulterers. Some people have more adulterers among their ancestors than others and so have more competitive sperm warfare measures, but all members of our species have some such measures. Most parts of our sexual anatomy and sexual behaviour are shaped by the evolutionary forces of sperm warfare. Sperm warfare is one of the most powerful aspects of natural selection, and the entire phenomenon was virtually unknown a couple of decades ago and still very few so called experts in the field of sex therapy, general medicine or psychology or know anything about it. Sperm warfare measures include a large penis which introduces the semen deep into the vagina, right up against the cervix and a large penis also acts as an efficient pump, drawing anything in the vagina out. You may have noticed that a vigorous session of thrusting often leaves the base of the penis covered in a ring of vaginal mucus which has been drawn out of the vagina, the corona, the edge of the glans penis, acting like a piston. This can lead to eventual discomfort and friction as the penis pumps out all the available mucus and moisture. The job of the penis is not just to add the man's own sperm to the far end of the vagina, it is also well designed to remove any previous deposits. The most obvious sperm warfare measure is the size of the ejaculate. We have much bigger testicles than our cousins the chaste and faithful gorillas, but smaller than the rampantly promiscuous bonobo or pygmy chimpanzee. Tens of millions of sperm in every ejaculation, but only one sperm is required to ensure fertilization. But this hides the truth, men with low sperm counts are functionally infertile despite producing millions of sperm, because one sperm isn't enough. Most of those sperm have no chance of getting anywhere near the egg, many of the sperm are incapable of fertilizing an egg. They are blockers or killers. Sperm change roles with age. To keep an ejaculate competitive a man must shed sperm, must want to shed sperm, must be made to think he has chosen to shed sperm. That is the explanation. Men masturbate to shed old sperm and keep the balance of their ejaculates correct. Too much masturbation and the sperm armies are too small, too little and they are stale, full of blockers, incapable of fertilizing an egg. The urge to masturbate is triggered deep in the brain well below any traces of conscious thinking. The rational conscious part of the brain simply reacts to this message of urgency and if there is not an imminent likelihood of sex with an appropriate partner his rational brain finds a suitable avenue for the urge. That explains why men do not visit porn sites six times a day, every day, although at some times they do get such urges. Naturally there is feedback from the body and in particular the testicles which excites or dampens the urge to shed sperm but like an iceberg the vast majority of the decision making process is under the surface. Why do married men masturbate? Because the optimum number of inseminations to keep a woman topped up with a defensive army of sperm is not quite in synchronization with the optimum production of an ejaculate which is competitive. Men are built to produce enough sperm to keep a wife topped up with enough left over for any other conceivable situation, pun intended. A man with everything, including a wonderful faithful partner, doesn't have enough, his body is always looking out for more opportunities to inseminate fertile women. The cost of an extramarital affair, in strictly biological terms, can be very low, as long as he is smart enough to avoid the financial and social penalties, which of course could sometimes include murder or even war. I am sure you can think of several examples from the world of show business, royalty and popular music of men acting naturally, keeping a gorgeous wife and trying to have a little more on the side as well. If a man does not get those extra opportunities to invest his sperm in other women his body will give him the urge to vent the excess, often in very mechanical ways. Why is wanking so taboo? Easy. To masturbate implies you are about to engage in sperm warfare. This means that either you are taking precautions against the possible unfaithfulness of your partner or you yourself (or at least your body) is considering trying to cuckold another man. In addition to venting off stale sperm masturbation makes an ejaculate that is better designed for inseminating a fresh partner. The advice offered in There's Something About Mary is right, although for another reason. Don't go on a date with a new woman with full tanks, your body wants you to greet a fresh partner with a smaller but more active corps of sperm warriors, a platoon of navy seals rather than massed ranks of slow moving infantry. A smaller army of fresher sperm will stand the best chance of inseminating a new partner, especially if this is helped by the woman having orgasm less than a minute before, during, or just after ejaculation. You will be more at ease on a date if you have masturbated a few hours before, your body will be relaxed and prepared for anything, and a relaxed body will take the pressure off, so you will probably have a better chance to score, but I suggest you use a condom on every first intercourse, the consequences of three minutes of pleasure can last an eternity. The only men who can openly masturbate without shame are the young single and unattached, because nobody is dumb enough to expect them to be chaste. The urge a married man gets to masturbate in secret is caused by his body's paranoia. He has to shed old sperm after several days or else his body will become restless knowing he is carrying defective ammunition, of no use to a spur of the moment opportunity or even as a regular top-up for his partner. Sometimes a woman develops a feel for this, although as so often with feminine intuition, without understanding the full reasons. A considerate partner often offers to “relieve” her man (or indeed his man) if for whatever reason she is not able to take possession of the sperm in the usual way, but this is not always the ideal solution for the man because he will feel most comfortable when nobody else knows how long it was since his last ejaculation. Even a man in a relationship with a woman who will masturbate him when she is unwilling to have sex will sometimes feel the need to masturbate in secret. It is just the way men are put together. Men are by nature largely monogamous, any man will be happiest when he feels his partner is faithful and he has the potential to be unfaithful. And women are just the same, but different, on purpose. Female MasturbationOK, so what about women? Why do women masturbate? The first answer is that of course many women do not masturbate, never in their whole lives. They do not masturbate not because they are frigid, asexual or blighted by a repressive childhood, but because they never have a desire to do so. This is normal. Women are different, they are supposed to be. Of course there are also many women who have been blighted by a repressive childhood who have been made unable to enjoy themselves in this way, but not wanting to masturbate is not by definition a problem for a woman, although it almost certainly does indicate some kind of a problem in a man. 98% of men masturbate at some time or another, the figure for women is less than 80%, or to put it another way most people know more women who never masturbate than they know homosexuals, non-masturbation among women is “more normal” than homosexuality. On average women masturbate less often than men, but the averages hide a lot of variation. Some women masturbate very often, this too is normal. Masturbation in women is a tool to regulate the conditions in the vagina, cervix and uterus which can be used to either increase or decrease the chances of conception from any session of intercourse and to regulate the mucus to provide optimum protection against infection. Naturally no self-respecting woman is going to paddle the man in the boat with the conscious intention of changing the condition of the mucus in her cervix, that is where the conscious or unconscious mind comes in, to come up with a pretext or scenario to achieve the desired condition, hence masturbation fantasies or perhaps orgasms in her sleep. It has been speculated that the clitoris is designed not to be stimulated during regular sex, its small size and discrete positioning suggest it has been tucked away to avoid being stimulated automatically during intercourse, and therefore its primary function is to trigger orgasm during masturbation. This would seem to make a lot of sense, a significant minority of women report never having orgasms during regular intercourse and the majority of women that they often will not orgasm during regular intercourse without some effort to ensure more direct clitoral stimulation. Women's orgasm sensitivity varies considerably and it almost certainly contributes to the power a of a woman's body's ability to subconsciously choose when to conceive. Adultery is massively more likely to result in conception than sex with a regular partner, partly because the woman's body is cued up to orgasm, sexual excitement giving her a hair-trigger. Adulterers are not objectively better lovers, but they are more likely to ring the bell and get the cervix to drink in the semen. Women who are sexually experienced will know that sex is hardly ever the same, it varies across her menstrual cycle and with her appreciation of her partner, and is quite beyond her conscious control. Sometimes a woman will want sex fast, deep, straight to the point. That is almost always when her body most wants to conceive. At other times she will want to orgasm before her partner shoots his load. Orgasms several minutes before ejaculation reduce the chances of sperm getting into her womb, most will be quickly expelled. Masturbation urges will vary with her body's needs. The subtleties of timing of orgasm help a woman's body play its game of grabbing the best available opportunities to fall pregnant by the best available partner, all this is done well below the threshold of conscious awareness. Many of all our ancestors were women who brought up bastard children quite unknown to their partners and despite being unfaithful on only a tiny handful of occasions. Women's bodies are wonderfully contrived to sample sperm by manipulating what we, until recently, have thought of as the higher faculties. The average woman's body is far better at the politics of adultery than any soap opera screenwriter, and fickle desire and the waxing and waning of sexual desire and sexual urges are all parts of that complex game. You might scoff at this and think it is all misogynistic paranoid ramblings but if the subject has tickled your interest I can strongly recommend the book Sperm Wars, by Robin Baker, which will fill in the details and provide a lot more evidence and detailed theory. At least it has to be better than the alternative suggestions: sin or free will. As if! |
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